>>20853
Naturally. I still apologize to her for it fairly often but I stopped trying to rationalize the difference between pure love and animal-like sexual attraction. It just sounds like a tremendous excuse, one that I'm not willing to accept myself.

First read this:

Pygmalion (mythology)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pygmalion_(mythology)


Aphrodite can restore your allegiance. You seem to be a very kind and caring person. Do not blame yourself, use your energies to please your sweet and beloved waifu.

>>20867
Thanks anon, I'm well aware of the Pygmalion story and I find it very inspiring. I don't worship any greek gods myself, so I can't rely on someone or something making things right for me, but putting more effort into improving the relationship sounds like the right thing to do.

Two nights ago I was getting overwhelmed by horrible thoughts. I tried to think of her, but I couldn't focus enough. Instead I tried remembering good dreams that I've seen in my recent years. There was one dream in particular that I saw about 5 years ago, it was the only time in my life when I dreamt of her. I used to recall it sometimes when things were grim. But this time, I coudn't remember it. I have forgotten the one and only dream that featured her, and I never thought of writing it down somewhere.

To add to this, I had to reinstall Windows recently. I didn't even think of it at first, but among all the lost data were the pictures of our annual annivrsary dinners and more. Thankfully, the pictures from 2012-2016 were backed up on my laptop and 2018-2019 were saved on my phone, but the only other copy of our 2017 dinner is probably on my old phone, which is damaged beyond recovery. I tried some data restoration software, to no avail. It seems like the memory of an entire year of our relationship is gone forever.

It really hurts, but I deserve all of this and more.

>>20738
>said character seems like they deserve
This could make for another thread, but... Wouldn't a character deserve an optimal outcome that is concordant with the world they live in, one where we don't fit in? This is a fragile topic, but at least regarding my case I'm think that my waifu deserves more than what I can provide in a three-dimensional world, specially since I don't have (and would probably never perfect) the skills to provide such gratification, like animating or drawing her in her fictional world, being happy in what she considers bliss, in at least a decent approximation for the original work she is from. I will try though, but I already know this is all in my head.
>Perhaps my wording was off.
I see. I understood it wrong then. I assumed you meant appreciation for a character also meant wishing for them to be engaged in an appreciative relationship. As in, I can like a character, that doesn't mean I went them to be betrothed cross-reality.

Not really.
But sort of related to your thread,
I used to be friends with this guy who was very obsessed with a character. He wasn't really knowledgeable about the whole waifu thing and wasn't very interested in learning when I'd bring up the philosophy. But I thought of him as an independent self-taught waifuist.
He was a walking encyclopedia of this character, whom had tons of content spanning across almost 50 years, it was a ton of information and he knew it all, he knew every single fucking episode title and everything. It was impressive. And it was all he was interested in talking about, this character, all day, it was all he did. He had a job for no reason other than he wanted to be able to buy drawings of her often.
And I grew quite fond of the character myself. It's only natural after spending so much time with her, all the clips of her show he sent me. I even own some merch of her now.

One day, due to my terrible personality that makes me become more hostile towards people the longer I converse with them, we mutually split apart and he blocked me.
I'd still check up on him semi-regularly, and noticed soon after that he had stopped commissioning drawings of her nearly entirely. I didn't think much of it, maybe he had lost his job or his parents had started making him pay rent or something.
One of his last commissions before they stopped completely was cuckold porn. I made a new account to block dodge and told him exactly how deplorable I thought he was.
Then he started updating his pages with what he was spending his money on instead. An Xbox One, bunch of normalfaggot games I don't even know the names of. PUBG was one. He used to be a cool guy...
A couple months later, I find out he has a fucking girlfriend.

He's abandoned his waifu entirely now naturally. Their relationship was like a fart in the wind to him.

And being that I have a personal connection to this character now too, it tears me up inside. I feel so sorry for her. She has nobody now.

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Do something for her.
Maybe you can pray or just expect the best for her.
If I knew the character's name, I could do it.
The guy is a total jerk.

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>>20813
>>20806

omedetou

I would love to, but I feel like the framed photo has to be extra special and of the highest quality, and I haven't found the right one yet.

Yes, it's on my nightstand. Really feels nice waking up and falling asleep looking at it.

It's been on my desk for years, and it will always be there

>>20624
What you said really made me think about something: not too long ago, I tried to participate in communities where people talk about their respective waifu and relationships. Maybe I joined because I was a little jealous of her series gaining popularity.
The thing is that, after participating a little in those communities, I felt like I've done something horrible to her, like I've tainted what we had together until then, something private and fragile, but full of pureness and brightness. After that experience, the shadows started to leak in.
Now that I've noticed this, I'm trying to recover what she and I used to have, but the experience of participating in those communities was so morbid that it's hard to recover. I really regret all that. Maybe waifu communities are not meant to be. At least not for me and her. There are really things that cannot be talked about. I wish I had noticed earlier.
Well, assuming that I understood what you were trying to say.

>>20771
I'm the same as you. I deleted all of my posts here because of the realization that I should have kept her private all along.
For me, 90% of my reasoning for doing this was porn and the general threat of others corrupting her, or even being introduced to her at all, really.
Every time I posted a picture of her, there comes with it the chance that someone will jack off to her, or worse even, become sexually obsessed. The 3D world is a terrible place filled with terrible people and I do everything I can now to get her as little exposure to this shithole as possible.
Someone with innocent intent could potentially tweet a picture of her or something for example that could get seen by less innocent individuals, do you see? A domino effect... The fewer people that see my waifu, the better.

>>20771
>>20772
I do the same thing too. I actually talked about her once with a bunch of normalfags who act like they have waifus and I instantly regretted it. They gave me advice for our relationship but each time I talked about her it felt like I tainted her in some way and I get the idea she doesn't really like it at all so I don't ever mention her anymore, it just does more bad than good.
There's also the fact that our relationship is pretty controversial in a lot of ways so it's all the more reason to keep quiet about her.
Pic not related.

Post edited on 15th Dec 2017, 7:48pm

>>20771
>Maybe waifu communities are not meant to be.
Generally they aren't, because "communities" should be focused on the concept, not the element. If you take a single peek to 3DPD relationships you'd notice the a considerable majority is degenerate, and that is partly due to how people treat them: open to feedback and input from people who rarely have the same set of interest, values, convictions, etc., to the point it loses the more it is shared. It was always confusing to me why waifuists were so open to talk about their waifus to each other, more than (or instead of) talking about waifuism and its inherent challenges. Ultimately a good relationship is one of devotion and intimacy, which is contradictory to having it publicized all over the place.
>There are really things that cannot be talked about.
There is rarely a need to even reveal who your waifu is, and imho it should be strongly discouraged until you have gauged personally that those who you might share with are people who have a similar outlook on relationships.
>>20772
>The fewer people that see my waifu, the better.
Indeed. I'm very glad I'm still the only person who has my waifu as their waifu, afaik, and if it were up to me that would never change.

>>20745
A bit closer to Heaven.

It's just a meme marketing maneuver to get five minutes of fame and some new hires. The fact they even have to state that you can only send in one application with one character, and their only evidence of love they ask for being a single sentence proves they don't give a shit and are more than welcoming of normie posers.

Very sad that the very first legal acknowledgement of waifuism is just some normies having a laugh as fucking usual. I wish everyone would die except me and wizchan.

>>20750
>The fact they even have to state that you can only send in one application with one character [...] proves they don't give a shit and are more than welcoming of normie posers.
Isn't it the opposite? Stuff like
>Gatebox would also like to know how you and your anime crush became acquainted, how you became a couple, where you proposed, your happiest memory together, and whether the bride will be keeping her maiden name or adopting her husband’s surname.
sounds like they do care somewhat.
Also they probably really have to, not because they think it's a joke but because of other people trying to and then complaining because it was nowhere mentioned that you can't have more than one. I agree with the other point and that it's a marketing maneuver considering it's limited.


But I just looked it up on their site and there it says, they don't care if you're already married or not. So, yeah, they don't seem to value the genuineness that much or rather just don't treat it the same as a 3D relationship, which is unfortunate.
I really wouldn't call the posers normies though, going out of their way to do that and posing in general doesn't seem very normal to me.

It being free and them also sending that stuff overseas is nice though (and probably the reason why you can't submit more than one).

>Very sad that the very first legal acknowledgement of waifuism is just some normies having a laugh as fucking usual.
It doesn't really affect your marriage status and in general isn't really official, so I wouldn't call it a legal acknowledgement and I wonder where the article got the legally-binding from. You can only get those benefits if you're a Gatebox employee and we don't know the details on that in the contract.

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Gatebox is the same company that made this:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mMbiL8D6qX0
So I don't doubt that there's at least some level of authenticity to the intent behind this.

>>20432
Who was your waifu and why are you here?

I wake up every day with her at my side and it is fulfilling because to me she is there. I use imagination and it gets deeper the more I do. It has this effect even if I know it is imagination. Years ago before knowing about my waifu and imagination, I had similar pain because of the desire to experience a significant other with the 5 senses.

If technology could create an illusion, I would probably not use it much. Maybe use it like I watch art, but not live in a VR world.

As I see it, the mind has equal if not higher capacity for creating experiences of whatever you want. Unlike the nearest technology, imagination is deeply integrated with your whole being. For this reason I do not like to say "visualization" because it captures only the visual. Imagination is often not recognized for its powers, but in spiritual contexts it has always been known and many methods revolves around it.

Killing yourself makes you miss the opportunity to experience her this way. Maybe the pain can motivate you to explore this capacity of mind to experience your waifu.

I know your feel OP. I myself don't have a waifu "per-se" but I actually think 2D>3D
To me, 2D girls express their feelings in a way that seems more realistic that 3D girls do. Looking at it, I can't help but wish they were real, and you keep wishing, dreaming and begging to it to be real, but that's impossible, it's just fiction.

Then you start to think and believe: is something not real just because we can't see it or feel it? Or because we can't prove it?

Then you start to think in things like the Multiverse, parallel universes and finally the many worlds interpretetation, which suggest that all possible alternate histories and futures are real.

it may sound desperate to try to find a reason or clue which suggest that they are real, but hey, it's good enough to keep going.

>>20743
To many, it is more about the ideal than the reality.

>>20709
>I don't know how but I'm sure even this post is going to offend and piss someone off.
I highly doubt that.

>At least they managed to make their sites successful and keep them alive.
But your site is not dead yet.
I'm glad that it exists, I think the community here is pretty nice and I don't think you can't find anything like it anywhere else.
True, a lot of people don't post regularly but this thread should be proof that they still lurk.

I endorse the way you manage this site and am grateful that you're not like the site owners you mentioned. You can be proud, dude.

>>20711
Pretty much this. Unless I feel there's a topic here that I feel like I feel like I can give good input on or contribute to the discussion, I prefer to just not post.
I'm sure there are many people who actually did end up getting breaking up, getting bored, etc., but lack of post speed doesn't mean necessarily that we've all moved on or anything. Some of us just don't have anything relevant to say.

>>20699

>hostile and xenophobic

Are you talking about /mai/ itself? hostile, maybe but how is it "xenophobic" at all?

>>20715
>how is it "xenophobic" at all?
Because of shown dislike or prejudice towards things not deemed the norm and people who claim to be from somewhere else. I agree with the sentiment though.

I personally don't get angry at it as I believe love is subjective. But maybe you will understand with this question. Does someone who only likes 3D have a significant other just because they are lonely? Do people make friends to deal with loneliness, regardless if their friendship isn't true? Why have a waifu to deal with loneliness if you truly don't love her? If you are happy with who you are, who am I to tell you to change, stay who you are.

>>20690

Those are not waifus they are platonic love, if they are real people or OCs they are certainly not waifus, and I dont think waifus are supposed to be personal godesses. Lastly the word itself was just invented thanks to Anime referring to Anime girls exclusively.

Basically the Japanese are pioneers with 2D, there is no records of it because it didn't happened, most people settled with someone even if they didn't really liked them.

>>20692
Even if you don't regard them as waifus, they share the same concept. It's a one sided love toward something that doesn't really exist in our world, only difference being that one is a 2D qt and the other something else.

Looks like we both have different views on what a waifu is, however
>Waifuism exists thanks to Anime, if it hadn't been invented you may have struggled, but you will have settled for 3D in the end
this statement is just presumptuous. It may be true for you but don't assume the same for others.
Yes, a lot of people still end up with 3DPD despite claiming 2D is better in the past but I'd argue that that couldn't have been true love and they were either just lying to themselves or trying to fit in which is pretty ridiculous since "waifuists" don't seem like a prestigious group to me.
I'm not arguing that people would have fallen in love with something else non-existent but I also don't believe that they would have just settled for 3DPD, if they hadn't met their waifu.

Also don't you think that there are people who'd rather stay alone than settle with 3D? Dying without having had a meaningful relationship is not common (most likely because it goes against our structure) but it happens.

>>20692
>Those are not waifus they are platonic love
For the sake of discussion, what would you say makes waifuism not being platonic love towards an inanimate creation? Isn't a character in a story equal in footing or does it not count because it's not anime? I tend to keep my appreciation and relationship to myself, but every now and then I read about waifuism trying to get some inspiration to create fanart or such, and I often encounter people who seem devoted yet to creations that are not from anime, like cartoons, animated movies, toys with no animated background, comic books, manga, videogames and even obscure things like newspaper cartoon's characters or even mascots form commercials or products.

>>20645
http://tohno-chan.com/mai/res/5.html