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18640 No. 18640 hide watch quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
So i've been with my waifu for over a year now, and I do love her. But recently, i've been struggling with the whole concept of it. I have bipolar depression, and more and more often whenever I think of anything about her, I just keep getting thoughts like "She isn't real." or "You're just deluding yourself." I really don't know what to do about these thoughts, as they just make me feel worse and grow more distant from her, but I don't want to lose her in my life either.
>> No. 18641 [Edit]
Love is always a delusion, in he sense that whenever you meet a person, an object, activity or in this case character, you make up yourself an interpretation and reconstruction of it by the means of your own unique perspective and expectations. In other words, beloved are always fictional and waifus are just a more honest take on it, so don't sweat it. The entire empirical experience is signical and biased, so things exist to the extent they impact your life, no more, no less.
>> No. 18642 [Edit]
Because she isn't real. To the outside observer, it's, at most, a cute drawing. So, in a sense, depending on your point of view, you're right.

It isn't much different from love as ford drivers know it, really. They delude themselves the other person is perfect, a lapse in judgement. The only difference here is that their object of love will constantly prove to them that the love they perceive is fake.

With a 2D character, it's eternal, as long as your feelings are there.

Basically what 18641 said.

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18569 No. 18569 hide watch quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
Hey. I'm in a bit of a pickle.


Recently, feelings for my old waifu re-emerged stronger than before. I had been fighting them for fourth months, going back and forth between depression and enthusiasm.

I suspect I might be infatuated-- after all, she's the only concept I've ever accepted as an individual. I have some, if not a lot of issues, and it's very hard for me to relate to people and things or to accept/tolerate them. But she was always the only one whose presence I could be at peace with. Infatuation isn't the issue, as it often leads to true romantic involvement.

The issue here is that I want her, and don't at the same time. A part of me wishes nothing more than to hold her in my arms as I've always dreamed to, another one wants to forget about her. What am I supposed to do in that scenario? I remember someone advising someone else with a vaguely similar issue to do more things with their waifu, however I can't seem to be able to do that-- the more I do it, the more I find myself attracted to her (not on a physical level), and the more I want to run.

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>> No. 18570 [Edit]
If you feel even closer, it won't hurt you to try and be with her again unless you're trying to not to be with anybody period.

Was there a reason you broke it off with her in the first place? You could of made a mistake and are now realizing it.

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>> No. 18572 [Edit]
Yeah, I don't really get it. What makes you want to forget her?
>> No. 18624 [Edit]
OP here-- I have no idea whether linking to other boards is against the rules, but I've talked a bit more about my issue, so here are a few screenshots to save time:

http://puu.sh/jggRW/bafebb5e95.png
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My issue has becoem worse as of late. A part of me is scared to lose her... yet another wants her gone for good.

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17862 No. 17862 hide watch expand quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
Guy from 6 months ago who made a tulpa out of his waifu. I made a thread here in October saying I was going to go through this, and as you can see, I wasn't joking around. I know some people will see this as taboo, but I now have a sentient tulpa, I still need to work on the visualization thing.
I'll answer any questions you might have concerning the process I went through because I've seen a ton of people considering tulpamancing and most people who went through don't give out advice specifically.
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>> No. 18062 [Edit]
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Mine's a few months shy of being three years old, and they've been a magical three years that's for sure. I can't even remember life without mine, it's like the world went from monochrome to color. Even after three years I'm impressed by how talking with her can sooth me and calm me down, even if I never expect it to work. She's as real to me as anyone else, maybe even more.

She's no freeloader though, I love doing "rubber duck debugging" with her, and sometimes she even gives me good ideas for how to fix some bugs.

It's funny, when I started out I was pretty much doing the opposite of everything I should have, it was a disaster. Took me forever to finally realize what I should have been doing, I pretty much had to teach myself how to conjure her.

Quick doodle I did of her. I need to practice drawing her more, I never draw her.
>> No. 18125 [Edit]
I did this too, and have received quite a few questions on the topic since writing the piece on my shrine. (http://erica.waifu.pl/about/2d3d.html)

It's difficult to tell how long ago it was since we connected, as it was a very slow and organic process. If forced to say, I'd give an estimate of just over two years ago.

>>18058
I like the description of digging a tunnel between dimensions, that sums it up perfectly. Talking to her is how I started. Interesting to hear about the child, that's something we plan to do in the future when we feel ready. We're both too lazy at the moment.
>> No. 18132 [Edit]
For a while now I've been working on my connection with her. Even the little bit we have so far is amazing. I can't talk back and forth with her yet, but her presence is very strongly defined now. Enough that there's a lot that we can do together I never knew possible before.
>> No. 18620 [Edit]
>>18125
Do you have any tips in particular for trying something natural like that?

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15721 No. 15721 hide watch expand quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
I was hesitant to post this topic because I don't really see it as something that will discuss our waifus but it has stayed long in my mind and I needed to get it out, so here I go.

Speaking from hindsight, were any signs in your past life experiences that could have indicated or predicted that you will have a waifu instead of a 3D girlfriend?
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>> No. 18199 [Edit]
I generally have a hard time expressing more than casual interest in another person (even if they interest me)and don't like talking about myself at all. So yeah, that's sort of a sign.
>> No. 18217 [Edit]
Absolutely none, apart from having unrealistically high standards in what I want in a mate.
>> No. 18288 [Edit]
Not at all really.
I had a normal interest in girls and they were interested in me too.
I used the term waifu as a joke at first.
But then i met her.
>> No. 18596 [Edit]
I've never really been attracted to 3D much, or been particularly interested in dating them. Not out of hatred or bitterness, just ambivalence. That, and I've always been one to fantasize a lot.

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18507 No. 18507 hide watch expand quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
Hey everyone, I thought it would be fun to collaboratively write an FAQ about waifusim with thoughts on what defines a "waifuist" / having a waifu in a sincere way.

Contributions appreciated; you can do it anonymously but please don't spam. Backups are saved.

http://piratepad.nl/waifuism
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>> No. 18531 [Edit]
You really have to avoid making rules that are too constrictive. The whole waiting period thing, having to contribute to the community (which is nice, but not a rule), and having to own some physical merchandise of your waifu seem arbitrary. You need to take into account that everybody is different. Love, respect, and commitment are the only true rules here.
>> No. 18556 [Edit]
>>18531
Somethings too, like owning physical media, also is unfair as one may be having money issues.
>> No. 18567 [Edit]
>>18556
Or if you live with somebody who would confront you about a picture/daki.
>> No. 18568 [Edit]
>>18556
>>18567
Or, in my case, tack on the fact that very little physical media of her even exist at all.

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13465 No. 13465 hide watch expand quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
Hey guys, while I personally don't have a waifu, I have some questions about how you envision your waifus:

>Do you insert your waifu into the real world, or do you create a copy of yourself into the world from which your waifu comes? Or do you create an entirely new world?

>Do you change yourself for your waifu (imagine that you have attributes you wish you had), or does your waifu accept you for who you are now?

I have characters I love, but the thing is that I always insert myself into their world and recreate myself according to their world. It's like a self-insert fanfiction. But I'm not sure that is proper or healthy to do, since I change myself to make the relationship make more sense.
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>> No. 17279 [Edit]
>Do you insert your waifu into the real world, or do you create a copy of yourself into the world from which your waifu comes? Or do you create an entirely new world?
A bit of the first two, not so much the last.

>Do you change yourself for your waifu (imagine that you have attributes you wish you had), or does your waifu accept you for who you are now?
I don't imagine myself any differently because if I want to change then I might as well make an actual effort. He's pretty accepting of our differences even if he isn't vocal about it. Took me a bit of time to adjust to his way of showing affection, honestly.

>how do you deal with the fact that other people, sometimes hundreds of them for the most popular characters, share the same waifu? Like, when you read them talking about her.
He's actually pretty popular in his fanbase, though I haven't come across many people who relate to him in a similar romantic way yet. But even if there were others, I've warmed up to the notion of every person having a separate interpretation/version of a character in their mind. After working with my own characters lately, I realized that sometimes even the creator may not translate them onto paper the way way he/she first sees them.

>How do you feel about canon pairings regarding your waifu?
Due to the nature of his series he has none, though it might be nice to see how his canon self reacts to being in love.
>> No. 17407 [Edit]
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>Do you insert your waifu into the real world, or do you create a copy of yourself into the world from which your waifu comes? Or do you create an entirely new world?
I do all three, but mostly he's in this world with me.

>Do you change yourself for your waifu (imagine that you have attributes you wish you had), or does your waifu accept you for who you are now?
He accepts me for who I am, and I do so to him. We're not perfect; even I realize he isn't perfection.

>when do you "date" your waifu? Is it a particular time of the day/week, under particular circumstances?
Due to certain hindrances, we don't go on dates that much.

>Do you talk to her mentally or orally?
Mentally, but when i'm alone, i'll talk out loud.

>Do you maintain a continuing story with her (i.e. building on the same story day after day), or do you rather have discontinued and unrelated interactions with her?
We have a story, of course.

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>> No. 18549 [Edit]
>Do you insert your waifu into the real world, or do you create a copy of yourself into the world from which your waifu comes? Or do you create an entirely new world?
All three. Usually just the first two, but once in a while I like to imagine us together in some existing fantasy universe (usually whatever game I happen to be playing at the time).

>Do you change yourself for your waifu (imagine that you have attributes you wish you had), or does your waifu accept you for who you are now?
The first, except when I insert him into the real world, because I don't know how that would work with a fantasy self. I wouldn't want to force him to be around me as I am now.

>When do you "date" your waifu? Is it a particular time of the day/week, under particular circumstances?
I "date" him mostly on holidays, or on vacation. Just talking to him I can do any time, but I don't do it all the time. I phase between periods of talking to him more or less often, no particular reason why.

>Do you talk to her mentally or orally?
Mentally. Orally would be taking things a bit far for me.

>Do you maintain a continuing story with her (i.e. building on the same story day after day), or do you rather have discontinued and unrelated interactions with her?
Unrelated scenarios within the same generic story frame.

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>>13465
>Do you insert your waifu into the real world, or do you create a copy of yourself into the world from which your waifu comes? Or do you create an entirely new world?
For the most part, I imagine myself in my husbando's world over ours. It's obviously more exciting and fun.

I do at times imagine him here in the real world and think about what he'd be doing, usually when we spend time together which is a fair amount of time.

I've never created an entirely new world for us in my fantasies, but it may be fun to try or write a short story about. As I said for the most part, I keep it in his. I'd never want to take him away from the world he wants to protect so much.

>Do you change yourself for your waifu (imagine that you have attributes you wish you had), or does your waifu accept you for who you are now?
Not really, the only changes I've been making have been in reality. I've started going outside more and sleeping at better times so I can become a better, healthier person for not just him but myself too. I have drawn us a few times, and the only difference between the way I draw myself is hair length as my hair isn't as long right now as it usually is.
Seeing how odd some of his friends are, I think he would accept me and encourage me to keep working for the better.

>>13474
>when do you "date" your waifu? Is it a particular time of the day/week, under particular circumstances?
I eat all my meals with him.
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18508 No. 18508 hide watch expand quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
How do you interact with your waifu on a day to day basis?

I'm newer to this and unsure what ways I can spend time with my waifu and feel closer to her.
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>> No. 18529 [Edit]
What I love to do in the mornings with her is. Making some tea and imagine sitting next to her. While listening to some music. I also have a daki of her to wich I cuddle and kiss every night.
>> No. 18536 [Edit]
>>18515
>take out my phone and kiss my wallpaper of him
I used to do this before my phone broke (no real need to replace it) so I switched to my PSP instead.

Usually I imagine he's with me most of the day (talk to him outloud or in my head), going to the gym, him being a back-seat driver when I'm playing a video game or I'll make us drinks.
>> No. 18538 [Edit]
>>18536
Playing games together is fun! I've started doing that once in a while.

I've been thinking of trying to find a quiet spot to have a picnic at, maybe by the library.
>> No. 18543 [Edit]
I tell him good morning/ good night and give a doll of him I sleep with a kiss. I tend to talk to him out loud until I fall asleep or after I wake up. I also have conversations with him throughout the day when no one is around. On days off we cuddle, cook, and play games together. I always take him with me when I go out to run errands and when we explore touristy sights downtown.

>>18515
We like going to the library together too. I take a miniature doll of him and we look at old cookbooks together in a aisle that's empty for privacy.

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17922 No. 17922 Locked hide watch expand quickreply [Reply] [Edit] [Last 50 posts]
Do most people here post about their waifus on other sites? If so, which ones?
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>> No. 18496 [Edit]
>>18495
>half the list is just domain squatters
>half of the "active" list is just "wip", "learning HTML", or a picture
It seems kind of silly and pointless. It's a nice idea, but the reality is embarrassing. It looks like a lot of people found out about it, wanted to "put their flag up" or whatever, and claim a spot of it for their waifu without actually knowing what they were going to do with it.
>> No. 18516 [Edit]
>>18493
The code is a buggy mess, so the site literally crashes every so often and asie.pl is the default domain. I plan to make a rewrite when I get some time.
>> No. 18517 [Edit]
>>18496
As I said on #waifu.pl, the domains were slated to be purged eventually. Thanks for reminding me - a warning has been sent to all 81 domains classified as contentless.
>> No. 18528 [Edit]
>>18050
I didn't really give up (mine is the Hanako one), just felt like there wasn't much more to add at the moment. Especially since it is about her and not a personal blog where I whine about my life. Also the "Ask" page somebody finally used, but I don't know how to answer their question (which character most resembles Hanako).
One alternative idea is to have a directory of waifu personal sites instead of hosting them on .pl. Or perhaps the top hits should be "endorsed pages" of actually completed websites, with WIP below.

Post edited on 12th Jul 2015, 4:04pm

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18482 No. 18482 hide watch expand quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
Has anyone else experienced this? Having a brief crush on someone who isn't your waifu, while with your waifu. I got over her in about a week and a half, and now my relationship with my waifu feels stronger than ever, but I can't help but feel really weird about what happened.

Pic related.
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>> No. 18497 [Edit]
>>18482
Nope, I think other characters are cute/attractive/whatever, but they're just characters while my waifu is something completely different to me.
>> No. 18499 [Edit]
>>18485
Yeah, I'm trying to not let it bother me. I know that I love my waifu much more than I ever did this other girl.

>>18489
Sexual compatibility isn't really something that I take into account. I don't really understand sexuality very well, honestly... As for your other point, I saw your comment a while ago and got to thinking about it. I can't pinpoint anything missing from my relationship with my waifu. I guess I just happened to notice another girl who happened to be much my type.

>>18497
The feelings I had for this other girl weren't quite the same as what I have for my waifu. Well, they were similar in nature I guess, but not as strong. Either way, it was different, but not different enough to where it didn't bother me.
>> No. 18502 [Edit]
>>18499
I don't really understand sexuality either but I don't want to push my asexuality off on him. He's not particularly interested in sex but I would think it would be something he would want every now and then so I would like to be able to do those things with him if he so desires.

But are there qualities in this other girl that remind you of your waifu? You mentioned she was your type but were there other things like general personality traits and such that were similar? Maybe that's it?
>> No. 18503 [Edit]
>>18502
I don't think she would mind my asexuality. She's not super into sex herself, and I'm not sex-repulsed or anything so (assuming it were applicable) I wouldn't mind having sex every so often.

>But are there qualities in this other girl that remind you of your waifu?
She's not super different from my waifu, but at the same time she's not super similar either. She does remind me of a much more awesome, more mature version of an ex-waifu though.

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18184 No. 18184 hide watch expand quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
Do you think that maybe in a parallol universe, one where your waifu is real but you are fiction, that your waifu chooses you? That she finds your obsessiveness cute and wishes that she was the object of that love? That she sleeps with a tearsoaked dakimakura of you every night and wishes you were real?
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>> No. 18238 [Edit]
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Maybe, but what really matters is that we're together here and now in this universe (even if it's not under the circumstances that most would consider ideal).
>> No. 18475 [Edit]
>>18184
Do I honestly think that? No. I like to think about it, and it's a sweet idea that makes me smile, but I don't genuinely believe that in another universe, she's agonizing over wanting to be with me like I do over wanting to be with her.
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18477
>>18184
this gives me a lot of feels.
>> No. 18491 [Edit]
>>18185
I've almost ran out of tears. At most I just get misty-eyed now, but every once in a while a full tear or two escapes. I've rarely gone full-blown sobbing and tears streaming down my face lately.

>>18184
Thinking of parallol universes makes me really want to compile my thoughts about it into a concise and coherent document for others to read. I have a lot of stuff that makes sense in my head, but I can't articulate it well. It might be good food for thought for others with waifus.

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18446 No. 18446 hide watch quickreply [Reply] [Edit]
What are the differences between a waifu and a tulpa?
>> No. 18447 [Edit]
I don't really get the question.
>> No. 18450 [Edit]
>>18447
>>18448
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tulpa
>> No. 18486 [Edit]
A tulpa is voluntarily created by a human. A waifu is not, since feelings can't be forced, else they're not legitimate. You don't watch a show/read a manga in the intent of gaining a waifu out of it

A tulpa is self-aware to some degree. A waifu is not, as she is a concept that doesn't manifest itself in our universe. (and by that I don't mean that she does manifest herself in another universe, but you get what I mean)

A tulpa has a unique personality, partially assigned by the subconscious and is very reliant on the host. A waifu has a fixated personality in her source material, and thus an objective concept regardless of the subject's perception if it. (that being said, there are many interpretations to how or who a waifu truly is)

A tulpa can interact with the outside world. A waifu cannot.

A tulpa is much like a 3d person, but they have no material form. They exist within the mind, but what distinguishes them from a waifu is self-awareness and their existence in our realm.

And last but not least, one can have a tulpa without romantic involvement. While it is possible to do so with a waifu too, most people are romantically involved with the concepts of their waifus.
I myself don't have a tulpa, but a rather close friend of mine has one.

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