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>>4078
I was saying both. There are qualities you're labeling with "gold digging (etc.)" that are interpretations of what you've heard about women and what you've seen from women, but what you're usually reading are worst case scenarios that most people may experience perhaps once, perhaps never.
The problem is that, reading enough of them, you'll begin to find patterns in those stories (the traits you listed were interpretations and repetitions of qualities interpreted by the writers of those stories) and form generalizations based on those patterns. Because of that, your mind begins searching for these patterns you found whenever you see women anywhere, and, whether it's applicable or not, you start applying the generalizations formed earlier based on the horror stories to them because your experiences with women were probably negative to some degree starting out (or, possibly but less likely, neutral from inexperience) and the mental framework you created from the stories to understand women ends up exacerbating the overall negativity of those experiences and your current perception of women, trying to fit them into your generalizations (in other words, trying to find some way to dislike them), which in turn reinforces your framework of women being awful when you always find something, as the personalities of other people as we perceive them are reductive interpretations of actions (sometimes many actions, sometimes just one).
In order to attempt to find out whether your perceptions are relatively correct or skewed, you have to ask yourself, if your perceptions are skewed, what might have caused that and how can you realign them toward something more reflective of the world as it is (perhaps asking the question itself amounts to you being able to detach yourself enough to realign them). You shouldn't necessarily "ignore" the stories, but you should realize that the stories are just that: stories, experiences reinterpreted by writers into a coherent narrative. And not only are they just stories, but they're horror stories, the worst of the worst. They're designed to make the woman in the story into a monster, regardless of whether she truly was or wasn't one.
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