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I found a way of dealing with my feelings of self-loathing, maybe someone could make use of it.
My issue was with having said or done things that I was told and accepted were wrong, but being unable to figure out what I should've done instead. I couldn't process it and just felt bad all the time.
The key thing is that your emotions exist to promote or inhibit behavior; you feel bad so you won't do the bad thing in the future. But to apply that you need understanding. So first, work out what you do or don't believe is wrong. And then once that's in place, ask yourself:
What did I do that was wrong?
Why precisely is it wrong?
How could I have known that?
Why didn't I see it?
If you can answer every one of these, then you know what to change.
If you cannot change, or if there are any of these you cannot answer, then you couldn't have done any better. It's not your fault. The blame might lie with the other party, or just the circumstance itself. But it's not your fault.
It's still a struggle; I have to remind myself of it a lot. But I'm feeling much better.
Post edited on 21st Dec 2022, 2:25pm
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