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23723 No. 23723 [Edit]
Did anyone else have a sort of normal life and then spiral into NEETdom and so on?

I was living fairly well, had lots of friends, even had a few 3DPDs. Then crippling depression and anxiety kicked in during my first year of college and you know the rest.
>> No. 23724 [Edit]
My downward spiral started when I moved to high school at the age of 11, it never recovered (life is slightly better than when I was 18-19 though, I'm 22 now).
>> No. 23725 [Edit]
Maybe not exactly "normal" but I at least tried to be friendly with people at my first job. I had an asshole of a best friend, and met a disgusting girl who talked me into going on my first date with her. It was as close to normal as I ever got. I cut ties with the friend, never had a second date, lost the job, and buried myself in the world of anime and internet culture. A few years of being a wage slave latter I got into a heated argument with a typical soccer mom 3dpd at my job, lost the job because of it, and lost my marbles along with it. I went into hikikomori mode for a few years after that happened.
>> No. 23726 [Edit]
Once upon a time, I was normal and happy, just like everyone else. I had a future, an education, a life, had friends, and had all the support I could possibly recieve to do my best. But all that turned upside-down when I realized that I was destroying my health by the stress and pressure that was being put on me by everyone else. I tried to minimize the stress, but I would always get critisized. One day, I had too much stress to bear, which lead to an awful and tragic event! I had a breakdown due to all the stress that was being shoved on me, and finally, at that moment, I have decided that I've had it. I screwed everything up and cut off everyone that I knew, and never ever, went outside again.

The end.
>> No. 23729 [Edit]
I got sick of having to police myself around people so they wouldnt tell me to shut up about my nerdier interests, burned all bridges and went full shut in
>> No. 23731 [Edit]
My most "normal" period was high school, but even then it wasn't probably really that normal compared to the average norm. I just had a small group of friends to hang out with, decent grades and didn't spend all day in front of the computer.
It all went to shit when I graduated though.
>> No. 23732 [Edit]
>>23731
>compared to the average norm
Serious question, do you think so-called normal people have perfect lives and you're the only one who struggles with problems? Maybe that's from a lack of empathy. It's easy to think you're so alone and unique and that everyone else is the same and not like you, but I think the reality is that everyone struggles with these things to some degree. Maybe not all with equal difficulty, but even so.

I think people on boards like this have a tendency to think that "normal" people are more successful and well-adjusted (and also mundane) than they really are.

What is normal, anyway? In America, certain things are considered normal. When I was in China, completely different things were considered normal. Normal means different things to different people.

Post edited on 14th Aug 2018, 5:29pm
>> No. 23733 [Edit]
Tohno-chan 2018
>> No. 23734 [Edit]
>>23732
then why is our lives so shit?
>> No. 23735 [Edit]
>>23734
Yous is but me isn't.
>> No. 23736 [Edit]
>>23733
Better than tohno-chan 2017 at least.
>> No. 23737 [Edit]
I'll let you in on a secret, /so/ was originally created as a containment zone for the type of self-identified otakus who showed up in droves on English language imageboards a couple years after they'd become popular amongst the general public. This type of "otaku" is they type that is always talking about themselves and isn't interested in discussing much else, such as anime, which they don't watch. This board is a place for them to chat amongst themselves and woe is me endlessly without interfering with the rest of us and it works like magic, the only unfortunate part is that the feed from this board needs to be kept visible on the homepage because if it isn't the true otaku hiki neets of /so/ will feel ignored and start posting on the boards concerned with Japanese media instead of staying in their ghetto.
>> No. 23739 [Edit]
>>23732
therapist asked me to define normal once, obviously there are normal people in different countries and societies

i feel normal people can be defined as being well adjusted to the society they live in and able to form bonds to others and have relationships/children (regardless of hobbies/interests/job)
>> No. 23740 [Edit]
>>23732
I understand from where you're coming from, but it wasn’t ever my intention to imply that I was the only person with problems or going through hardships. I just wanted to illustrate that even at my most "normal" period (as in actually hanging out with friends, doing anything other than staying in my room) I still didn't do much compared to the average student in my country. Of course that doesn't mean that I was the only one who had a hard time or struggled.
Sorry if it came as condescending or anything, it wasn't really my intention.
>> No. 23742 [Edit]
>>23732
Oh, look, a (failed) normal getting triggered. Everyone clap and nod.

If you have no concept of what normaldry entails. Then you're likely in the wrong site.
>> No. 23743 [Edit]
>>23732
>I think people on boards like this have a tendency to think that "normal" people are more successful and well-adjusted (and also mundane) than they really are.
The time I've spent around them online and offline leads me to believe that this is true. More often than not normies appear to be very content. Things might not always be sunshine and rainbows for them, but they have far more ups than they do downs. It's mostly just the younger ones who like to bitch the most because nothing is ever good enough for them. Most of their complaining is petty bullshit too or passive bragging. It sickens me when these people complain to me about how boring casual sex has gotten, how dumb their boyfriend is, how clingy their 3DPD is ect. They whine about a scratch on their expensive new car or how their kids eat up all their free time. It's disgusting how they brag while disgusting it like complainants, and about things they choose to do too, not things forced onto them. This bitches keep claiming they're lonely and depressed after going two weeks without a boyfriend. How fucking spoiled do you have to be to think that's a valid complaint? Most normalfags don't know true loneliness, true isolation, hopelessness, or despair. They live carefree lives doing whatever they feel like then cry when the starbux guy got their name wrong.
Sure I've met normalfags who have it bad too with more valid things to complain about, but they almost always bring those issues onto themselves via their own care free attitudes towards life. Like women who casually sleep around then complain that they keep being used for just sex, Guys with no self respect who throw themselves at every women they meet and can't figure out what they're doing wrong after doing the same thing hundreds of times, Fat bitchy women who treat men like shit then complain no one loves them, People who get fucked up on drugs and alcohol, People who are poor because they can't stop wasting their money, and so on.
Normals generally have it good, they just like to bitch.

>>23737
I'm pretty sure /so/ wasn't made as a containment board. I think that's just /ns/, /420/, and maybe /lol/. /so/ was here from the start, how can you can an original board a containment board?
>> No. 23744 [Edit]
>>23743
>I'm pretty sure /so/ wasn't made as a containment board

it was specifically created to keep the r9k crowd from polluting the rest of the site
>> No. 23745 [Edit]
>>23743
I think the issue is that you're comparing your true self to the outward self portrayed by other people, and you forget that other aspects of their lives exist.

On social media, people tend to only post positive things, even when negative things are going on in their life. You know your entire life story, but you only know their highlights. If you compare the two, thinking you're comparing your life to theirs, you're going to get an inaccurate depiction of yourself vs. others.

I know a guy who tries so hard to pretend to be rich on social media. He doesn't make much money at all, but he always posts selfies of him wearing suits, information about new Ferraris, and shit like that. He actually convinces some people that he's wealthy, but I know him well enough to know it's all bullshit. He's essentially role-playing. But instead of role-playing fantasy or scifi characters, he's pretending to be wealthy and well-adjusted.

People might post about good things in their life, and you're right, people will downplay it, or make it sound like a complaint. They do that in an attempt to seem even cooler. If someone goes on vacation and posts a photo at a beach with the text "pretty boring week" what they are trying to communicate is that they want you to think their life is so interesting that a really cool and uncommon thing like a vacation is boring to them. But in reality, it's just a facade.

You know how people can troll on image boards? Well there's a different version of that on other social media platforms, or even in real life. People play facades and try to make their life sound better than it really is.

Someone who is in debt, alcoholic, depressed, etc. might talk about Tinder and being so successful and popular and whatnot. But in reality, they might just barely be scraping by.

Many of the "normal" people you are complaining about have their fair share of problems that they keep to themselves, and sometimes they outright lie about good things.

Look at statistics about income, education, etc. Look at world statistics about literacy, starvation, GDP per capita, and so on. Lots of people have really shitty lives. But you seem to think that everyone else has a great life. I assure you this is not the case.

I live near East St. Louis. You know what's normal for life in East St. Louis? Violence, poverty, health problems due to lack of healthcare, unemployment, lack of education, no upward mobility, having trouble paying bills, and overall, a horrible quality of life. But you know what rappers from East St. Louis rap about? Being rich and successful. It's all fake. Did you know that rappers rent expensive cars for music videos? They can pay to rent one for a single day. Most of them can't actually afford to actually buy them. But that doesn't stop them from lying/pretending.

Lastly, consider that there are different phases in life. People who are successful now might have had rough patches in their past. You are not going to stay stuck in your current situation forever. Similarly, people who are in better situations haven't always been that way, and might not always continue to be that way either.

If you think tons of people have perfect lives, you're completely delusional.

Post edited on 18th Aug 2018, 1:38pm

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