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Consider the following: Anonymous 05/20/15(Wed)05:32 No. 20129 [Edit]

Mike Row answering a fan letter. Read this shit for some insight.

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"Hey Mike (Rowe)!

I’ve spent this last year trying to figure out the right career for myself and I still can’t figure out what to do. I have always been a hands on kind of guy and a go-getter. I could never be an office worker. I need change, excitement, and adventure in my life, but where the pay is steady. I grew up in construction and my first job was a restoration project. I love everything outdoors. I play music for extra money. I like trying pretty much everything, but get bored very easily. I want a career that will always keep me happy, but can allow me to have a family and get some time to travel. I figure if anyone knows jobs its you so I was wondering your thoughts on this if you ever get the time! Thank you!

-Parker Hall

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Hi Parker

My first thought is that you should learn to weld and move to North Dakota. The opportunities are enormous, and as a “hands-on go-getter,” you’re qualified for the work. But after reading your post a second time, it occurs to me that your qualifications are not the reason you can’t find the career you want.

I had drinks last night with a woman I know. Let’s call her Claire. Claire just turned 42. She’s cute, smart, and successful. She’s frustrated though, because she can’t find a man. I listened all evening about how difficult her search has been. About how all the “good ones” were taken. About how her other friends had found their soul-mates, and how it wasn’t fair that she had not.

“Look at me,” she said. “I take care of myself. I’ve put myself out there. Why is this so hard?”

“How about that guy at the end of the bar,” I said. “He keeps looking at you.”
“Not my type.”

“Really? How do you know?”
“I just know.”

“Have you tried a dating site?” I asked.”
“Are you kidding? I would never date someone I met online!”

“Alright. How about a change of scene? Your company has offices all over - maybe try living in another city?”
“What? Leave San Francisco? Never!”

“How about the other side of town? You know, mix it up a little. Visit different places. New museums, new bars, new theaters...?”

She looked at me like I had two heads. “Why the hell would I do that?”

Here’s the thing, Parker. Claire doesn’t really want a man. She wants the “right” man. She wants a soul-mate. Specifically, a soul-mate from her zip code. She assembled this guy in her mind years ago, and now, dammit, she’s tired of waiting!!

I didn’t tell her this, because Claire has the capacity for sudden violence. But it’s true. She complains about being alone, even though her rules have more or less guaranteed she’ll stay that way. She has built a wall between herself and her goal. A wall made of conditions and expectations. Is it possible that you’ve built a similar wall?

Consider your own words. You don’t want a career - you want the “right” career. You need “excitement” and “adventure,” but not at the expense of stability. You want lots of “change” and the “freedom to travel,” but you need the certainty of “steady pay.” You talk about being “easily bored” as though boredom is out of your control. It isn’t. Boredom is a choice. Like tardiness. Or interrupting. It’s one thing to “love the outdoors,” but you take it a step further. You vow to “never” take an office job. You talk about the needs of your family, even though that family doesn't exist. And finally, you say the career you describe must “always” make you "happy."

These are my thoughts. You may choose to ignore them and I wouldn’t blame you - especially after being compared to a 42 year old woman who can’t find love. But since you asked...

Stop looking for the “right” career, and start looking for a job. Any job. Forget about what you like. Focus on what’s available. Get yourself hired. Show up early. Stay late. Volunteer for the scut work. Become indispensable. You can always quit later, and be no worse off than you are today. But don't waste another year looking for a career that doesn't exist. And most of all, stop worrying about your happiness. Happiness does not come from a job. It comes from knowing what you truly value, and behaving in a way that’s consistent with those beliefs.

Many people today resent the suggestion that they’re in charge of the way the feel. But trust me, Parker. Those people are mistaken. That was a big lesson from Dirty Jobs, and I learned it several hundred times before it stuck. What you do, who you’re with, and how you feel about the world around you, is completely up to you.

Good luck -

Mike

PS. I’m serious about welding and North Dakota. Those guys are writing their own ticket.

PPS Think I should forward this to Claire?"

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Pic also related, get out there and start some shit. We can all make it bros.

>>	Anonymous 05/20/15(Wed)07:34 No. 20130 [Edit] That's good ol Mike for ya.

>>	Anonymous 06/16/15(Tue)10:10 No. 20229 [Edit] Makes no sense. Is the message, "give up on your dreams and start slaving away?"

>>	Anonymous 06/27/15(Sat)07:36 No. 20277 [Edit] >>20229 life =/= dream Be realistic, adjust your expectations to reality. And then start working on making that reality like your dream.

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Anonymous 07/11/15(Sat)19:35 No. 20333 [Edit] >>20277 All this letter is saying is "If you were smart enough or capable of doing the sort of thing you dream about, you would have already done it and would have a specific idea in mind. Inaction is a merely mentally protective mechanism to prevent the realization of your own limits in order to save your self esteem. Either you're too stupid, too much of a coward, or both. By my estimation you seem to be both." Not exactly the sort of thing that "giving it your best" would really seem to be able to alleviate. There are people capable of dreaming great things who then do them, it's not some sort of rule of the universe that "reality is gonna kill your dreams" just because one mouse in the lab isn't able to make his way out of the maze. I'm not saying you should kill yourself if you're not one of these people, but you should definitely curse your fortunes if you're just conscious enough to understand this but not enough to do anything about it.

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Anonymous 07/20/15(Mon)15:04 No. 20356 [Edit] >I'm not saying you should kill yourself if you're not one of these people, but you should definitely curse your fortunes if you're just conscious enough to understand this but not enough to do anything about it. Killing myself seems like a pretty good idea since I'm one of these people.

>>	toki!5yOaZrqx.c 07/26/15(Sun)23:45 No. 20378 [Edit] >>20229 of course, isn't that what capitalism is all about????

>>	Anonymous 07/27/15(Mon)10:34 No. 20379 [Edit] >>20378 No, that's socialism.

>>	Anonymous 08/09/15(Sun)21:03 No. 20431 [Edit] >>20379 socialism =/= communism

>>	Anonymous 08/13/15(Thu)10:00 No. 20445 [Edit] >>20431 Even the socialists don't believe that anymore.

>>	Anonymous 09/21/15(Mon)23:20 No. 20679 [Edit] >>20431 "IM ONE STEP CLOSER TO THE EDGE"