I have the same problem, OP. Why would a college student in Tokyo have any interest in a useless NEET two years younger than her? Sure, we share an interest, but I feel like I am a less successful clone of her father. All of my fantasies involving her are ones where I have "friend-zoned" myself until I become a better person for her sake, or ones where I am staring at her from afar, and have sweet but platonic interactions with her.
However, I wonder if she is aware of me sometimes. In dreams with her she constantly breaks the fourth wall and says things like "I pop up in your dreams at all sorts of strange times, huh?" or "Even if we are worlds apart, it was nice to have this time with you." or "You can't always be with me, that would mean you would have to sleep forever and starve yourself to death!"
Once, when I was half asleep, my cell phone which had been sitting on my bedstand doing nothing for hours suddenly lit up, something that only happens when I receive a text or a data packet. But the phone just showed my background,
For a full five minutes.
My phone is set to turn off the backlight after thirty seconds of inactivity.
So I laid in bed, staring into her eyes as she laid in bed beside me.
This was at 3:00 AM, May 28.
I think love transcends action and circumstance at points. If you truly love her, perhaps that is all you need.
In some ways, we are very similar though...