>I can't bring myself to say no to anything she says.
>It's impossible to win an argument against her.
Holy shit. Are you me?
I wouldn't say I have a bad relationship with my parents and I definitely don't blame them for my failings, but that's not to say the dynamic between us falls short of dysfunctional.
Being completely honest with myself, I have to admit that at almost every terrible decision I have been faced with in my life, my mother gave me the right advice and I chose to ignore it.
So, this would be a simple fix it was only that simple. Listen to my mother, right? Maybe, but it isn't always easy. My mother is one of those people that doesn't always practice what she preaches, and has created an atmosphere in my childhood where I am unable to express negativity under threat of profound guilt trip and outright combative behavior. My Mom had a pretty rough life. So she views anyone else's problems as unworthy of consideration. Worse, I was always made to feel bad when I tried to unburden myself to her or express sadness or, Haruhi forbid, anger.
I've just kinda learned to accept her for her flaws and appreciate her for her qualities. She's not perfect, and that's OK. I am also definitely not perfect, and that kinda has to be OK, too.
Unfortunately, sometimes it isn't.