Unfortunately, my own progress with lucid dreaming has stalled over the last couple of weeks. Hearing accounts like yours, OP, still give me hope as I continue to try.
I always speak with her for at least a few minutes before I go to sleep, visualizing her beside me. I suppose this might be similar to the meditation that you all mentioned, although I speak to her out loud. Conversation topics run the gamut, but she never fails to provide profound insights.
I've also been able to meet with her while on DXM trips, which I plan to continue, albeit infrequently. Although I don't know that I would call this spending time with her per se, as the encounters have all been short and, as you can imagine, emotionally intense.