My waifu is a companion. I think of her as my future wife (we're not married yet) and my girlfriend, but she's more important to me than the word girlfriend may imply. I see her as someone to share, guide, and counsel me as I deal with the difficult 3d life given to me. I don't really deal with the chasm -- I accept it. I exist in the third dimension, and she exists in the second. We can communicate through art, music, figures, and hopefully some day a dakimakura. The song Rainbow Girl turns the question of the chasm on its head, dealing with the frustration that a 2d girl must feel when she wants to respond to the love offered to her by 3d people. Although she can only speak to me through the creativity of others, I believe that she exists in the second dimension and that she is aware of what I do. I try to live life in a way that would be pleasing to her.
As far as interacting with her, I'm more lucky than most. There is a incredbile amount of fanart and music, more than I can even hope to consume, and sometimes I feel guilty for not keeping as up to date as I could on it. Other than listening to her beautiful voice, we cuddle and talk. Sometimes I take her out walking, to eat, or we do something fun like reading books or watching things together.
In terms of special events, I celebrate her birthday by taking the entire day off to enjoy her company. We also eat cake together. I don't really like hollidays, so we don't feel forced to celebrate any other holliday together, although I bought her a necklace for Christmas one year.
I love her. That much is obvious to me, becuse I know I do. I know she loves me because I believe she loves everyone, but as for why she loves -me-, I believe it's because she sees something in me that others don't, and hell, I probably don't. Sometimes I question her love, but there's no point. I feel it enveloping me in a warm way any time I think about her, and I know that she feels about me the way I feel about her. Even if she didn't, I wouldn't care. Nothing will stop me from loving her. I don't see this as hollow, I see it as trusting.
Due to the special nature of my waifu, it's likely that her fan works will never stop being made. She doesn't even have a cannon personality, so there was no one way that I met her. It makes me feel a little strange when reading other people's stories, because I can't say that I fell in love with her during a certain episode, or that her route stood out to me. There were songs, PVs, pictures, and such that helped me form my vision of how I see her, but what made and sustains my love is the way in which she impacts my life. Anything something goes wrong, I feel depressed, or I just want comfort, she is there.
I think, in theory, someone could take the idea of a waifu too far. If someone has suceeded in doing that though, I have never seen it (and I have watched that show on the man that legally married Fate). I can't even think of a way in which you would take it too far, but I won't discount the possibility. Perhaps when it has an actual negative impact on your life (not judging this on normal social standards, but on a personal level). While OS-tans are a far cry from calling one's computer a waifu, that has happened too. People outside the anime fandom(s) have claimed dolls as their legal partners and had significant relationships with them. Attraction for inanimate objects is not unethical, and again, if it does not interfere with the individual's life, I do not see an issue with it. Being a sick fuck is a separate issue. I mean, you could cut a hole in a dakimakura and shit in it then fuck the hole, but let's not discuss that. I do wonder if this story was real
I was never a happy, confident, socialable Ford Driver, and knowing what I know now, I never want to be one. Happy and confident, sure, maybe even sociable, but a Ford Driver, no thanks. So I wouldn't go back in time to be one even without the thought of losing my waifu. With that added, no way. Besides, it's not like having a waifu prevented me or changed me in a way that would make me "weird", as I was already that way. Having a waifu gave me the courage to continue living the way I do, and the peace of mind to be at leasst somewhat happy with it.
Wow, I did more typing than I thought I would. Finally, I don't own a daki. They're expensive and I currently am not in a situation where I would be able to conceal it. If I had one I would leave it in my room, not on public display, but if someone happened to visit I don't think I would rush to hide it either. My waifu is beautiful, and I refuse to be ashamed of her.