You don't really ever know. How could you? it is precisely because the world exists and works beyond your predictions at any given moment, that you keep getting hurt by it again and again. So no, you don't ever know when is the "right" moment to leave 3D behind: you decide it...

There's always religious esque dumbs around who will believe otherwise, but waifus aren't heaven sent: people choose to build them, to enhance the merely possible switching of their own concepts about some character, in order to start functioning as such (as their beloved one). And that's precisely what gives value to such an act: to be an authentic choice made by you, by your own will and disregard of all problems it may entail. The choice to love, no matter what.

This may sound weird for someone who has a waifu. But a waifu had the opposite effect of what are you saying. Having a waifu made me care a lot more for the 3D world, although both views clash one against the other.
Having a waifu helped me to understand that there are a lot of points of views that I didn't know nor understood. Through my experiences with her it made me realize how much your perception of your surroundings and the people around you could change once you got to know them. That there was something interesting out there.
I know that the 3D world will hurt me, but it's not like those "unhealthy feelings" will hurt me less. But, hey, what's wrong with being hurt? Does really being hurt is that bad of a thing? I think that there are worse things out there than being hurt. And if you are going to get hurt anyway, you can give a chance to those things you avoided because you didn't want to get hurt.
However that didn't mean that I stopped loving her as my waifu. I know I love her with all my heart and that there will be no one like her. So I refuse to stop being in love with her just because the world around me doesn't agree with it.
I don't know how to explain it, but I don't want to let go of any of those two worlds, because they are part of me and I can't sacrifice any in sake of the other.

What I want to say is that there is just no easy way for real bliss. So I'm just saying to live how you want to live, but be always aware that there may be other options to achieve happiness and you can always change the path you've set yourself in. So be more at ease.

It's not a matter of giving up.

You either love her more than you could ever imagine loving anybody else, or you don't.

If anything the giving up comes AFTER the love, because you're already completely fulfilled. Not the other way around. Though giving up is still not the right way to put it, rather it's a loss of interest.

Though, this doesn't apply to everybody, I guess.

I don't think that when you give up on 3D, it would indicate that you are committed to your beloved partner yet. Giving up on 3D is probably when you suddenly realized that reality is one ugly world to live in and you would prefer an idealized version of your own world in 2D form. Hating on 3D has nothing to do whether you truly fell in love with the right person or not.

You know you're committed to your beloved, when you believe that you're really committed to your beloved. You can't just say 'oh I have strong feelings for her, but I am not sure if I am actually attracted to her' since your uncertainty could probably imply that you might not be attached to her in a long run.

The best thing to do is just wait and see if you truly meet the one that gives you that certain spark and in the end you would go 'Yes, I will forever be committed to this beautiful woman, since she is certainly the one for me and I think there are no women who is exactly like her for eternity'.

I will just leave you with this.
'Don't look for love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love, you don't force yourself to fall, you just do.'

>>12033

I haven't forced myself at all. And it's not that i'm uncertain about the strength of my feelings. I feel like i've been denying them. Lately i started comparing them to feelings i've had for 3D woman and they seem very legitimate. I've always pushed them away because I thought it was silly. But now i'm starting to think that all i'm doing is ruining a chance at happiness which i've failed so miserably in other ways. Everytime i'm down its like she would always be there but I never gave her a chance to do anything but cheer me up. I just always have this feeling that finding happiness this way won't work. But, clearly what I've been doing is what's failing.

>>12035
Well, just do whatever it takes to make you happy but take your time if you have to. There is hardly any rush, it's never too late to find your own source of happiness. You don't really have to regret the fact that you didn't grasp the chance to fall in love with your beloved back then, you will just have to think and reflect how you could dedicate yourself better for her. The past doesn't matter, the present matters much more.

>>12035
You can try.

>>12038

This might be an odd question, which isn't exactly easy to answer.... but how exactly do I start? I don't know how to hndle this type of thing. i feel kinda nervous for some reason lol

>>12042
I haven't been in love with my girl as long as you seem to have been, but I fought it for a while, too. I found myself comparing her to 3D exes I had and realized that my feelings were much stronger, and it scared the crap out of me. Just let the nervousness go and things get easier. Don't feel like you have to rush your feelings or your relationship with her, but if you're ready to make the commitment, relax and simply accept her. It was enough for me.

Then again this is just my experience and maybe guys who have been with their waifu for years, and not simply months, would have better advice than me.

>>12042
You can try to find some images of her, or start looking for other works with her in it (manga, CD drama...)
Go look for things related to her, get to know her better.